Jeff Kohlver: You were coming on to me!
Hayley Stark: Oh, come on. That’s what they always say, Jeff.
Jeff Kohlver: Who?
Hayley Stark: Who? The pedophiles! ‘Oh, she was so sexy. She was asking for it.’ ‘She was only technically a girl, she acted like a woman.’ It’s just so easy to blame a kid, isn’t it! Just because a girl knows how to imitate a woman, does NOT mean she’s ready to do what a woman does. I mean, you’re the grown up here. If a kid is experimenting and says something flirtatious, you ignore it, you don’t encourage it! If a kid says ‘Hey, let’s make screwdrivers!’ You take the alcohol away, and you don’t race them to the next drink! - Hard Candy (2005)
We get SO MANY messages from young women asking if it’s a good idea to sleep with a guy who’s way older. Every time we get one of those messages, I think of the movie Hard Candy and this dialogue. The movie is dark and tackles some seriously disturbing subject matter, but the point that this scene makes is that EVEN IF you, as a young woman, are choosing to flirt with an older man, THEY are the responsible adult and should not be indulging you at all. Anything else is a big red flag that reads “pedophile”.